My Rights

I have the right to know where my husband is and when I can expect him to be home.

I have the right to ask my husband to maintain safe boundaries with other women (to be determined below).

I have the right to know where our money is going.

I have the right to tell other people about our problems as directed by the Spirit, so long as I am not motivated by the spirit of gossip or backbiting.

I have the right to seek guidance and help from Group, from priesthood leaders, and from anyone else I feel prompted to reach out to.

I have the right to rigorous honesty in our relationship on BOTH sides.  If I find myself minimizing or hiding the truth, I need to overcome my fear and address it.  If I find out that my husband has been minimizing or hiding the truth, I need to enforce a boundary (to be decided) until I feel that I can trust him again.

I have the right to feel that my children and I are the primary priority in my husband’s life.

I have the right to make decisions on what my instincts tell me without feeling belittled or mistrusted.

Boundaries With Other-Gender Relationships

No being alone with a persons of the opposite gender for any extended amount of time—if you need to run an errand together, take someone else along.  No more midnight walks/talks, no more going out on the porch alone; there always need to be other adults present.  This includes hanging out at school or work—other than necessary meetings, you should not be alone with each other.

No deep/personal conversations without the other spouse present.

If for any reason the other spouse feels uncomfortable with any behavior that is going on, they have a right to speak up and end it immediately.

Texts and emails should be able to be randomly checked by the other spouse at any time.  If the other spouse feels uncomfortable by anything they find, they have the right to ask that texting/e-mailing ceases until trust has been rebuilt.

Our spouse should be the most important person in our life.  If another person (of any gender) begins to take priority, the spouse has the right to point it out and expect action.

No gift-giving unless it is from us as a couple (this includes buying treats and food). 

Female friends should primarily communicate through me, and male friends should communicate through my husband.  If at any time one of us feels that we are being used just to get to our spouse, we have a right to speak up and ask for change.